Events such as those at Virginia Tech are horrifying and arouse anxiety in various
ways. College students may feel especially vulnerable. If this could happen on one
campus, they are reminded that it could happen anywhere.
The director of Counseling and Disability Services at Southeast Missouri State University
offers these suggestions for relating to your student in the aftermath.
- Talk with your student as often as needed. You may find that he or she wants more
contact with family at this time, and that is normal.
- Encourage your student to express his or her feelings about the incident. Provide
support, realizing that all feelings are legitimate.
- Reassure your student that strong feelings after a tragedy are not uncommon. You might
ask, "It must have been so upsetting to hear about the shootings at Virginia Tech."
- Realize that being away from home may be disconcerting at this time; your student
may have never experienced this form of anxiety previously.
- Consider asking, "Are you worried about anything at this point?" This will give your
student the opportunity to express any particular fears.
- Encourage your student to seek support from fellow students. Advise your student to
be alert to campus communications and familiar with emergency procedures on campus.
- If your student needs to talk with a professional, suggest that he or she make an
appointment with Counseling and Disability Services in Dearmont Hall, Room B1, 573-986-6191.
- If parents are concerned about their student and want to consult with a professional,
call Counseling and Disability Services at 573-986-6191. Information about services
provided by Counseling and Disability Services can be found at http://www.semo.edu/ucs/counseling.htm.